“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.” Sun Tzu, The Art of War.
Social Anxiety Disorder is an emotional virus which, like other pathogens, lay dormant for years before materializing. It’s likely you were infected during adolescence and the potential disorder lingered in your system for years or decades before making itself known. Any number of situations or events could have triggered the initial contact; it might be hereditary, the result of some traumatic experience, and/or environmental. You could have been subject to bullying or a broken home. Perhaps your parents were overprotective or controlling, or unable to provide emotional validation. What I try to address is the solution before the cause. Get out of the rain first; then look into global warming.
The following email, reproduced verbatim, appeared in my inbox on February 2, 2019. It describes, from a personal perspective, the destructive capabilities of Social Anxiety Disorder.
“I suffer from anxiety to the point that I have know life and am afraid of most everything and really don’t know why? It keeps me from dating and I really want to learn how to have more self confidence and have friends. and a part time job. I’m 48 and the anxiety seems to worsen as I get older. I don’t want to die alone. I have know family, and I’ve only been living in san fran for almost one year, from North Carolina. What I’m trying to say, anxiety has crippled me, locked me in a cage and has become my master. I want to learn how to be free and be and do the things I wan to do without second guessing myself. I want gay friends and to start dating. I want to love and be loved!! I’m not getting any younger and I’m so lonely on so many levels. With that said, please let me know if I can afford this group, please. thanks and have a great day.” Continue reading “A personal Introduction to Social Anxiety Disorder”